Self-Love or Narcissism?

Tishk Barzanji - Opumo

“Love yourself first,” is a common self-help platitude, but what that means is rarely clear, and all too often it evolves into narcissism. Simone de Beauvoir saw narcissism as “a process of alienation: the self is posited as an absolute end, and the subject escapes itself in it.” In other words, narcissists set up an image of the self as the central meaning in their life and wallow in it. They escape by losing themselves in their reflection, daydreaming about ideal images of themselves, or doing whatever they can to become the center of attention. Some look for the spotlight on a stage, some turn to social media with dreams of fame and influence. Narcissism is a strategy to make oneself loved and desired by anyone who will look and listen, and can be the very antithesis of self-love.


This Olio is about the philosophy of self-love and its darker side, narcissism. We will turn to philosophers including Simone de Beauvoir and bell hooks and discuss questions such as: Is narcissism all bad? When does self-love cross over into narcissism? How do we love ourselves without succumbing to the dangers of narcissism? How does social media, capitalism, and consumerism fuel tendencies towards narcissism? And how does the way we curate ourselves for the gazes of others compromise and enhance our being? 




Location: Strand Bookstore

828 Broadway, New York, NY 10003

The Rare Book Room at Strand Bookstore boasts an elegant venue for our Friday night residency.




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Oct 15

Olio Seminar | Kafka will Ruin Your Life and Make You Laugh About it

Taught by Geoff Klock
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Oct 21

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Taught by Kim Nguyen
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Oct 22

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Taught by Jeanne Proust
7:30 p.m. at Threes Brewing // Greenpoint

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Oct 23

Eros: The Geometry of Desire

Taught by Jamie Warren
7:30 p.m. at Moon Rise Studio

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Oct 27

Olio Breakfast Club | Frankenstein: Who is the Monster?

Taught by Patricia Kim
1 p.m. at Threes Brewing // Greenpoint

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Oct 30

Olio Workshop | Modern Anxiety and Ancient Healing Arts

Taught by Darryl Aiken-Afam
7:30 p.m. at St John's Episcopal Church

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Nov 4

Olio Fiction Workshop | Challenging the Received Boundaries of Genre

Taught by Kat Rejsek
7 p.m. at Little Roy // Flatbush

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Nov 15

Do You Have Kids? The Politics of Motherhood

Taught by Ifeoma Ike
7:30 p.m. at The William Vale Hotel

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Taught by Vishwa Adluri
7 p.m. at Strand Bookstore

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